In the Leafy Tree Tops

I think that I shall never see

A poem lovely as a tree.

A tree whose hungry mouth is prest

Against the sweet earth’s flowing breast;

A tree that looks at God all day,

And lifts her leafy arms to pray;

A tree that may in summer wear

A nest of robins in her hair;

Upon whose bosom snow has lain;

Who intimately lives with rain.

Poems are made by fools like me,

But only god can make a tree.

Joyce Kilmer

The delicate blossoms of apple trees are amazing, the heady scent attracts not only bees but also a young girl seeking a place to hide away to escape in a book. As a child and teenager, I spent many hours perched in the branches of our apple tree and tree house, escaping from my chores, brother’s teasing, Mom’s calling, and the world, in general, losing myself in the pages of a book.


Sitting in the apple tree, May 1980

Of course, the apple tree and climbing up in the tree house were not the only trees I climbed. There were three tall trees along the edge of the property where I grew up. The center tree was home to a rope swing, hung off a high branch. While one could get some swinging in just pushing off the ground, the best experience was to climb into the adjoining tree, walk out onto the branch, then have someone toss the swing up to you.

The key to a successful swinging experience, to soar back-and-forth above the ground, was all in the timing. To get to where you could actually sit on the swing (a large, smooth stick tied onto the end of the rope), you had to grasp the rope tightly, and then jump all the while lifting your legs and wrapping them around the stick, straddling it. But what a glorious thing to swing, the wind rushing by and the earth, cloud-studded sky, and branches slanting like a crazy green, blue, white, and brown kaleidoscope. That swing was one of my favorite places to be.

At some point, one of us came up with the idea of doing doubles — meaning one person would launch themselves on the swing, while a second waited on the branch; when the first person arced back toward the branch, the second person would jump, and if all went well, land so the two passengers were sitting criss-cross, on the swing. The rush of adrenaline would surge through as you made the leap, hoping you timed it right to go soaring into the sky, slowly slowing down until you could put feet on the ground.

Success every time — until I missed the rope — and essentially, jumped out of the tree from about 10 feet up. It was a spectacular belly flop, straight to the ground. I hit, the wind knocked from me, head and teeth jarred from the abrupt stop. On the ground, I gasped for breath, everything hurting until eventually air filled my lungs, and I realized I was not dead. Fortunately, nothing was broken.

One would think this would have cured me of climbing trees, but it didn’t. I loved the experience of conquering a tree; smooth versus rough bark, testing the strength of branches and climbing ever higher. The whiff of raw pine, the feel of wood beneath me, surrounding me, the slap of a leafy branch, springing back to catch me in the face — it was all a part of the experience.

Even when I was grown with children of my own, I climbed trees, with and without them, the apricot tree outside my kitchen window my ladder to the roof of the house where I placed trays of fruit leather to dry (or escaped to read, so the kids couldn’t find me) — until I didn’t.

Because I was no longer agile enough. Because I became fearful that my weight would break the branches. Because I no longer had the upper body strength climbing trees requires. Because I was afraid I would fall and break something. Because I thought it would be ridiculous for a woman of my age to be climbing a tree.  But, I was wrong.


When I began what I think of as my journey back to me, one of my goals was to lose enough weight and regain enough leg strenth,  upper body strength, and toning to be able to climb trees again — and after a year-and-a-half of dedicated work, I have done that. A few days ago, I climbed a tree. It was not without its challenges, and I did encounter a setback, but ultimately, I succeeded and found myself in the leafy branches of a tree, and it was as exhilarating and wonderful as I remember. Here’s to more tree-climbing adventures!

PS: Many thanks to my son for letting me borrow his jacket (it was a bit cold) and for documenting my tree-climbing adventure!

Mountains, Migraines, and Rainy Days

Descending the trail,
I suddenly encounter
A blinding migraine.
Supported, I slip and slide —
Hiking through soft rain.

KyneWynn – Neff’s Canyon Meadow Hike May 2019
Photo Credit Darren Miller

I like hiking in the mountains. I love to walk in the rain, splashing in puddles along the way, getting soaked to the skin in the process. I like hanging out with friends, hiking in the mountains — but, I don’t like getting a migraine in the middle of the adventure, which then becomes a misadventure, but for the fact that fellow hikers, acquaintances of only a few weeks, came to my rescue.

When I joined this group, it was an effort to 1) get in some more exercise (after a few years of a rather sedentary lifestyle), and 2) meet some new people, because I had found myself in a rut of work, head home, sleep; wash, rinse, repeat — and I needed something new. What I have found is a multi-faceted group of people who love to hike and enjoy doing it together, followed by hanging out and socializing afterward over a bite to eat.  

Last night, I also learned that it’s more than a social club,  as evidenced by the kindness I received from fellow hikers (ranging from acquaintances to some hikers I didn’t even know) who literally stepped up to help me off a mountain when I experienced the sudden onset of a debilitating migraine.

If you’ve never experienced migraines, I’m so happy for you. If you have, then you know the blinding band of pain, bright spots (coming in like a Star Trek ship leaping to hyperspace), blurred vision, light-headedness, and nausea that are a part of it. Usually, for me, this means some medication, puking, and then sleeping until the migraine is over. Unfortunately, being on the side of a mountain without medication precluded my normal migraine prevention routine, and I experienced the Full Monty of a migraine.

I don’t recommend the experience (nothing like dry-heaving at the side of a trail, and stumbling and sliding around a rock-filled bed of mud like a drunken sailor, with the rain, in a gentle fall drenching you), but at the same time I am grateful because my faith in the intrinsic goodness and kindness in humanity has been reaffirmed. Water, medication, an arm to lean upon, and guidance to the end of the trail were mine, and I didn’t even need to ask. People were just there, to support me and make sure I was okay, to the end of the trail and beyond. That is what this community is about, and I am grateful. I no longer think in terms of acquaintances, but rather friends. Thank you, my new friends, for being there for me. I am indeed blessed with a silver lining amidst the storm.

PS: For future hikes I will carry a first-aid kit with me, complete with headache remedies, so I won’t be caught with a migraine coming on and no recourse but to experience it.

Cutlery, Crocks, and Life Lessons

 “The true life of the bowl began the moment it was dropped.”

An Ancient Kintsugi Quote
Both of my kitchen crock broken into pieces on the floor.

This crock was a wedding gift more than three decades ago. I used it for years to hold a motley collection of wooden spoons, spatulas, and other mixing and serving utensils. Then one day it was knocked off the counter and broken. Today I put the pieces together with glue and a little gold glitter (because who has gold stashed in the cupboard). While this crock will never be what it once was, it is now worn and features visible, patched cracks, it is completely functional, but more imporantly, it’s still filled with warm memories from the years it graced my kitchen counter — and as soon as the glue is completely dry it will be filled with cooking utensils once more.

Life is sometimes like that too. We get knocked down, broken, and we don’t know if we can be put together again. We sometimes don’t know if it’s even worth the effort it takes to try again. But then we decide to pull ourselves together. Yes, we have scars, and will never be the same, but that’s okay. Our scars give us character, empathy, and wisdom. Eventually, as long as we choose to do so, we can not only survive, but thrive as we look for the golden moments in our lives. It is possible to live a happy fulfilling life — complete with lessons learned, forgiveness given, and joy found as long as we keep trying and never give up.

PS: Follow this link to learn more about Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing cracks with gold.

A Little Summer Reading


I would be most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves.

Anna Quindlen, “Enough Bookshelves,” New York Times, 7 August 1991

Summer is fast approaching and for me, that has traditionally meant a stack of books to read. Actually, I rather miss the summers when I was home with my kids. I would let them stay up as long as they wanted to at night, as long as they were reading a book. That meant they slept-in later in the morning and I had some quiet time for myself — and they did a lot of reading.

We used to go to the library every few weeks and bring stacks of books home. In the summertime the kids signed up for the reading challenge at the library and collected prizes. I had a perpetual library fine because there were always lost books. It’s all good though because I raised a family of readers whose world view was enlarged through exploring other times, places, and cultures through the pages of a book. Some of my favorite memories are of the kids lounging all over the house reading.

Today I am sharing some of my favorite books that are great for summer reading. Some I read when I was just a child myself and others are more contemporary reads I’ve discovered.

5 Books to Read this Summer

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

This classic book about a small family in Alabama during the Depression. “The unforgettable novel of a childhood in a sleepy Southern town and the crisis of conscience that rocked it, To Kill A Mockingbird became both an instant bestseller and a critical success when it was first published in 1960. It went on to win the Pulitzer Prize in 1961 and was later made into an Academy Award-winning film, also a classic.

Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery

Marilla and Matthew Cuthbert were expecting a young boy from the orphanage. When Anne Shirley shows up, they don’t quite know what to do. Anne is imaginative, whip-smart, and troublesome. Anne explores the beautiful Avonlea — making lifelong friends, getting into scrapes, and learning about what it means to be part of a family.

The  Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Annie Barrows and Mary Ann Shaffer This book garnered a 4.1 (out of 5) stars on Goodreads reviews.  It tells the story of an the Island of Guernsey under the occupation of the German Army during WWII, and the aftermath.  Written as a series of letters it is by turns charming, humorous, and compelling. A quote from the book, kind of sums it up,  “Reading good books ruins you for enjoying bad books.” And this is definitely one of the good books. Also, the movie was pretty good too.

Grave Mercy by Robin LaFevers is the first in a three book series about assassin nuns and fifteenth-century politics.  Admittedly, it takes some doing to work your mind around the premise, but once accepted, the mystery takes over, and the story carries the reader through, leaving a thought-provoking path in its wake. — Or if you don’t think too much, it can simply be a quirky mystery series. .  

Summers at Castle Auburn by Sharon Shinn

This is one of my new favorite young adult (or young at heart) books. I love the heroine of the story — so much better than angst-ridden Bella (as per Twilight); granted, there is some angst, but how could you have a story about a teenager without some? The story is engaging, and the characters are believable. It is essentially a fairytale, but it has a realistic feel to it that I like, including the self-realization that come about by the end of the book. Overall, a good read.

What books are on your 2019 summer reading list? Share your recommendations with the rest of us by leaving a comment. I’m always on the lookout for a new book to read.

Dancing with Mr. F

You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince.

I’m not kidding. You can’t make this stuff up. In a nutshell, despite my avowal to the contrary, I’ve started going to dances — with my widow/widower peeps. We go together and just dance in a group, no partner needed. I love it, I get in my steps, it’s energizing, and we laugh a lot. One night recently, I decided to go to a dance solo.

The evening began with a potluck dinner with round tables set up where attendees would have the opportunity to get to know one another before a short devotional/informational/spiritual address, which is then followed by dancing. I brought my own dinner, sat at a table with some interesting people, stayed for the lecture, and then against my better judgement, decided to stay for the dance, because you know, steps.

At first it went well, I danced with several benign gentlemen, a couple of nice ones, and one I would have liked to get to know better. And then, it happened. Thankfully, I don’t recall his name, so I’ll just refer to him as Mr. F from here on out. In any case, Mr. F approached me just as I was exiting the hall because a slow dance was coming up and I don’t usually like to dance those unless it’s A) with someone I already know, or B) it’s with someone I want to get to know. But, he intercepted me, and because I strive to be kind and polite, against my better judgement, I said yes.

We begin to walk out into the dancing area but instead of stopping and beginning to dance, Mr. F leads me to the other side of the room, through all the dancers,  mind you, where as he says, “there’s enough room to move here” and we begin to dance, his hand lodged somewhere in the region of my hip. Our conversation goes something like this:

Him: So, did I sit by you at dinner.

Me: Ummm, no.

Him: So do you know any bad jokes? (Then proceeds to tell a very lame joke.)

Me: (Insipid smile.)

Him: Do you know any good jokes?

Me: Not off the top of my head.

Him: Isn’t it nice to go to a social event and let go of the baggage of your ex for awhile?

Me: I’m widowed.  

Him: (Stammering) Oh . . . I’m sorry.

Dancing in silence (thank goodness!) Then thankfully the music ends and I make my escape.

But, a little later, my kind nature got the better of me, and even though I saw him and tried an avoidance technique, Mr. F honed in on me and asked me to dance again. Against my better judgement, I said yes to another dance. At least this time it was not a slow song.

This time the dance went like this:

Him: So, did I sit by you at dinner.

Me: Ummm, no.

Him: So do you know any bad jokes? Then proceeds to tell a very lame joke.

Me: (Insipid smile.)

Him: Do you know any good jokes?

Me: (Staring at him incredulously.)

Him: (lightbulb moment) Oh, you’re the widow!

Me: Nodding (and thinking to myself, why me?).

We continue dancing — silently now,  and then this happens:

Him: Bad air, bad air. Let’s move.

Me: (thinking) What the what?! (then smelling a decidedly foul odor)

Him: Moving us to a new area of the dance floor about six feet away, dancing a while longer then saying, “Umm, that was me, bad tummy” (While rubbing his tummy no less.)

Me: Mumbling something noncomittal (and feeling flustered).

I was about ready to simply leave the dance floor and him when the music finally ended and I made my escape from Mr. Flatulence!

I have learned my lesson! I will forego going to dances solo and stick to hangin with my W/W crew.


My question — how many frogs will I have to dance with before I meet a prince? Is it worth the effort?

How would you have handled the situation? Let me know in the comments.

PS: I braved dancing again (at a different venue mind you) and did enjoy a slow and close dance with a hot guy that was an entirely different experience, so I won’t give up just yet on dancing or the hope that I will one day meet my own Prince Charming. Until then, I’ll be on the watch out for frogs!

Let Me Powder My Nose: A Brief History of Powder Rooms

Because the topic came up again at work when we were looking at floor plan pages.

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shutterstock_255868366“Let me just powder my nose.” It’s a phrase we’ve all heard from time-to-time, and everyone knows that no powdering is actually going on, but we still use it. Why?

Recently, I came across an apartment website that boasted “powder baths” among its amenities. Not having heard this term before, which by-the-way I think is a ridiculous term, I decided to do some research and see what I could find out about it. My conclusion is that it is an awkward conflation of powder room and bathroom. Apparently powder room or half bath was insufficient to describe what this apartment community offers its residents. Then I found myself looking into the history of powder rooms, and of course, I have to share what I found out.

The Powder Room — A Brief History

Initially, the powder room was the place in an eighteenth-century home where one went to refresh the…

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May the 4th Be with You: Celebrating Star Wars Day

Do or do not. There is no try.

Yoda

Do you enjoy science fiction? If you do, you’ve probably heard about or are a fan of Star Wars. May 4th is Star Wars Day! Derived from the famous phrase “May the Force be with you,” May the 4th is the perfect day to celebrate all things related to a galaxy far, far away.

Because I’m nearly as old as dirt, I remember going to see Star Wars, A New Hope, when it hit theatres in May of 1977. I was a teenager and charged with keeping my younger brothers in line when Mom dropped us off at the movies. I have to admit I was more interested in the cute boys sitting behind my friend and I than I was in watching the movie or keeping an eye on my brothers. But, the movie was good enough that I subsequently went to see The Empire Strikes Back, and Return of the Jedi when they arrived in theatres. And then came prequels and back stories, which can get rather confusing, but this Skywalker Saga chart helps untangle the timeline.

At one point, I tried to read the books — but in all honesty, they sucked. I have found that books written based on movies are usually subpar reading. (If you know of any exceptions, please give me a shout out.) Because I was curious, I looked it up, and learned that the book was actually published six months before the movie, but the novel was written based on Lucas’ screenplay by ghost writer, Alan Dean Foster, and I stand my ground about the quality of the story — but the movies are good.

Now back to ideas for celebrating Star Wars Day!

Have a Marathon

What a better way to celebrate Star Wars than by watching the movies? If you’ve got the movies, you’ve already got the first step down. There are plenty of movies, so if you’re going to have a marathon, we suggest you prepare adequately for it! Preparing can include making snacks, getting out the comfortable blankets and pillows, and even drinks. Pick the movies you want to watch and then enjoy hours of science fiction entertainment!

Star Wars Treats

If you’re looking for some treats to snack on during your marathon, we suggest making some delicious Star Wars inspired treats! From pretzel lightsabers to macarons decorated like your favorite characters, there are plenty of treats you can choose from to make your movie marathon better!

Get Crafty

If making treats and having a movie marathon aren’t your thing, you can get crafty! This is a perfect activity to do with any young children that you have who enjoy Star Wars as well. Some ideas for Star Wars crafts you can make are:

  • Foam lightsabers
  • Character puppets
  • Death Star Pinata
  • Yoda/Leia hair bands

Enjoy your May the 4th with some of these suggestions for celebrating Star Wars Day! May the 4th be with you, and watch out for the Revenge of the 6th. (Very punny, I know.)